Delusion, depression from abandonment, a sense of betrayal: they are like a heavy and painful boulder that seems to be destroying us. Is it possible to pick up the threads of life again by overcoming anger? It’s not easy, but it’s possible. It will take some time, for your self-esteem has been hit hard. One has to develop new habits, new interests. You can help yourself by going out of yourself to help others, but first of all, you have to find peace in your wounded heart.
Heal a wounded heart
The first step is not to repress suffering but to admit one’s suffering and say: “The trial is here, but I can face it; rather facing it will make me stronger, it will help me draw on my latent abilities.” Step two is to understand how you can manage even without her; often loneliness is the ideal space to strike out on new paths. We have a store of energies waiting only to be tapped; the future belongs to us if we want it, if we build it passionately day by day. Third step: frequent meditation to rediscover your deeper needs and to satisfy them with “living water”.
If you are a believer, praying may be important, because meeting with the divine can open up chinks of light amid the darkness of your sorrow and make you find the freedom of heart that comes from forgiveness. This does not mean denying the mistake of the other, but offering the other person a free and disinterested super-gift to overcome any resentment. This can also help you become aware of your mistakes in managing your relationship and improve your relational skills However, it takes time, patience, and sharing, and at times, even the help of an expert to open yourself up ever more to hope.
